How to Behave on a First Date: Advice for Men

Strong will, high moral qualities, flexible intellect and wit, kindness and generosity — all this can be inherent in you, but to reveal your potential and demonstrate the most attractive character traits, you need some time, which you won’t have if you lose the first game — a date. Therefore, the first date with a girl should be prepared as carefully as possible.

Preparation

In general, preparation can be formed within the framework of two strategies:

• Naturalness. You behave in much the same way as you have always behaved, without trying to pretend to be someone you have never been. Advice: if you are a weightlifter and with all your heart drown for a healthy lifestyle, you don’t need to wear glasses, a suit, and quote Brodsky out loud in thirty-minute monologues.
• Game of masks. Let’s say a girl who looks at you is crazy about bikes and dreams of entering one of the elite biker clubs. You only have an idea of ​​two-wheeled animals from watching the movie “Harley-Davidson and the Marlboro Cowboy”, but you want to give the impression of “the same guy.” Advice: you will need serious preparation, a thorough study of the issue and culture, a lesson in riding a bike.

Which strategy should you choose? This depends solely on your intentions.

Choosing a Venue

It is impossible to give one hundred percent recommendations on where to go on a first date. You can only, having certain statistics, outline several options:

• A restaurant. It is the most suitable place for a first date. A separate table or cabin, dim lighting, good music, a wide selection of food and drinks are conducive to conversation. Besides, almost all good restaurants are themed. Therefore, there will be no shortage of topics for conversation — culture, cuisine, traditions, philosophy, etc.
• A café. A modestly furnished establishment with a summer verandah, located closer to the historical center of the city and its pedestrian part. During the walk, you will stop and drop in for a cup of coffee and cake.
• Walk in nature. Cheap, cheerful, environmentally friendly.

All the above options are good. The choice depends on two factors: the financial capabilities of the inviter and the wishes of the girl. Most likely, you talked a little before deciding to ask her out on a date, and are already a little aware of her preferences. It is worth taking them into account, synthesizing them with your financial situation, and choosing a certain compromise option.